Originally Posted by Dennis
Dennis.....I've been my own worst enemy with that darn word. The way it used to work with me is I'd go busting it out there - like a fool - and find myself in a 2 year relationship. You gotta be real careful with that word! Nowadays, I don't have to use that word to get close to a girl - I have a whole vocabulary of words that work as well or better. Plus I pick my targets better - I don't waste time on ones who aren't after what I'm after. I don't see the point because it's clear that we're not on the same page. If I see 2 girls and one is average and one is smoking hot - if smoking hot was after the cuddling, the holding hands, the gazing deeply into one anothers eyes, and average was after a good time - then 9.5 times out of 10, I'm going with average - in spite of whether smoking hot wanted me or not. Fact is, if she wanted me enough, she'd be putting out! Am I right guys?
So to boil that all down for you Dennis - if it's just about the physical, then it's GOT to be compatible. None of this applies if you genuinely "like" like someone, of course. If you achieve a connection like that with someone, sex doesn't really matter. As much.
You can hold out for that "special someone" if you like but you might have to cover the sexual equivalent of the Gobi Desert before you get there. It's nice to find an Oasis or two on the way across though.